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People Helping People is Expanding to Utah County

9/4/2012

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 Three years ago, my children and I moved to Utah County from Salt Lake County.  Doing so made it more difficult for me to mentor single mothers at People Helping People in Salt Lake.  Recently I found out that they are expanding into Utah County which will make it much easier for me to work with them again.  It is very exciting because I know all the good they have done in Salt Lake County and now I will be able to be a part of something great again.

You may be asking the question, “What makes them so great?”  Before I answer that question, let me tell you a bit about why they exist.  People Helping People is dedicated to reducing the number of children living in poverty by teaching low-income women, primarily single mothers, how to earn a living wage.  So what is a living wage?  A living wage is calculated off of the self-sufficiency standard which is calculated according to where you live and takes into account how many people are living in your home, housing costs, food, taxes, and other essential living expenses.  The self-sufficiency standard for Utah can be found here: http://www.selfsufficiencystandard.org/docs/Utah%202001.pdf. 
What it says is that, assuming you have an average size family with three children, and you are a single parent, you would need to earn $46,000 per year in order to sustain your little family without the help of government programs, church, or family assistance.

Unfortunately, there are over 6,000 single moms in Utah County and 75% of them and their children live below the self-sufficiency standard.  Half of this group (38%) live below the poverty line.  That is why I am so excited that People Helping People is expanding into Utah County.  PHP’s Employment Program offers a unique, long term, one-on-one approach that teaches women how to get a good job, and seek and receive pay raises and promotions. In other words, they teach these women how to play the game of work.  

Utah is well known for its stay at home wife and mother population.  It is also getting better known for it’s rising divorce rates.  So it just makes sense to teach women how to earn a good living and be self-sufficient.  If you or someone you know is a single mother and could benefit from learning what People Helping People has to offer, please join us on October 3rd or 17th for a program overview.  After which, workshops will be held each Wednesday starting in October at Utah Valley University (UVU) at 723 S. 1200 W. in Orem.  Other dates are listed in the image below.  To quote Kayleen Simmons, “If you have to work, you may as well make it pay.”  Join us to learn how.

Utah County PHP Schedule
For more informaiton about People Helping People or to see schedules for Salt Lake and Weber Counties, go to: http://www.phputah.org/ or call Marva Sadler at 1.855.303.5300 or email her at marva@phputah.org
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Single Mothers' Seminar

2/24/2012

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One of the hardest things about being a single parent is that you are the only source of income for your family.  If you don't make enough or if you lose your job, you don't have a spouse to turn to to pick up the slack.  That is why I am so excited to announce the completely FREE Single Mothers Seminar taking place on March 15th.  It will run from 5:00 pm to 8:30 pm at 3750 Market Center Drive in Riverton.  Even if you are happily employed, take advantage of this great networking event to meet other single mothers just like you.
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Tools for Successful Single Parenting - Part 3: Networking

3/11/2011

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One thing that I have learned from being a single mother is that no matter how great you are, or how much you are able to do, you cannot do it alone.  That is why I am so thankful that I have had the support network that I have.  Between my friends, family, and neighbors, I always seem to have someone to help me when I need it most. 

Networking has been the key to my career success.  I have been very fortunate to have had the help of great people like Matt Murphy, Dave Osler, Nancy Tremblay, and many others who have helped me navigate the waters of the Autodesk world.  Without their help, I would not be where I am today.  They have given me advice, inspiration, and so much more.  Knowing how much they helped me at work, I decided to create a parenting network at home.  This network consists of other single mothers as well as married women who inspire me and teach me how to be a better mother.  I often call them up to get advice, vent, or just straight out ask for a favor.  If you are not as fortunate as I am to have a great network, then it might be time for you to do something about it.

On Tuesday, March 15th from 5:30 to 8:30 pm, a Single Mothers Seminar is taking place in Riverton, Utah.  Admission is completely free and I believe that it will be well worth your time.  Check out the flyer for more information.  The address is:

LDS Church Offices
3740 Market Center Dr
Riverton, UT
(approx.13400 S Bangerter)

Once you start developing your network, here are some ideas on how to use it to your advantage.

1.       Watch them with their children or yours and decide which habits you want to incorporate into your own parenting style.  Children respond differently to different parenting styles.  So find the style that you see your children responding to the best and incorporate it into your style.  My youngest is the hardest headed child that I have met.  When it comes to getting her to do chores, I struggle at figuring out the trigger that will encourage her to pitch in.  Then I watched my mother get her to clean base boards, windows, pull weeds, and many other things without much effort.  Of course, I wanted to learn how to get her to do chores without wasting all my energy so I asked her how she did it.  She admitted that she made it seem like she was having fun doing it which made Savanna want to do it.  She also bought a fun duster that my girls love to play with.  So whenever we go over there, they want to play with the duster and “pretend” to clean.  It is a great tactic that I have incorporated at home.  They don’t even know that they are working.

2.       Ask for advice on how they are successful in accomplishing what you want to accomplish.  Laundry is my biggest nightmare.  So when a close friend of mine told me she finally caught up on laundry and has been able to keep up with it I asked her how she did it.  She said she found flylady.net.  FlyLady is a great website with advice on how to get your house in order.  The best advice on that site is to do a little something each day.  My friend started doing one or two loads of laundry each day and it helped her have more time on the weekends to go have fun with her family.  I have tried to incorporate this but have to admit I do not always make the grade.  A little each day on everything thing else has help me a ton though.

3.       Take turns picking up each other’s children from daycare, after school activities, or play dates.  In my last neighborhood, there were a couple single mothers that had their children in the same school and afterschool program as mine.  So from time to time, if I found myself running late to pick up my girls, I would ask one of them to pick up my girls while they were picking up their children.  Of course, I would return the favor for them whenever needed so it was a win win for both of us.  If you are going to create this type of relationship with another single parent, make sure that you put that person on the safe list at their school so that they can pick up your children.

4.       I also took turns cooking dinner with one of them which was really nice because there were days that I just wanted to go home and veg in front of the TV rather than cook dinner.  It also helped that she was a great cook so I did not always have to eat my cooking which can become boring sometimes.  Through this relationship, we have exchanged recipes, laughter, and tears and created a bond that will likely last a lifetime.

I hope you enjoyed reading this week.  Please share your comments here on tools and tactics you have used that have made you a better parent.  I am sure that others would love to hear from you.

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