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Create the habits that you want in order to create the you that you want.

1/30/2013

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FOOD FOR THOUGHT
"I am your constant companion.
I am  your greatest asset or heaviest burden.
I will push you up to success or down to disappointment.
I am at your command.
Half the things you do might just as well be turned over to me.
For I can do them quickly, correctly and profitably.
I am easily managed; just be firm with me.
Those who are great, I have made great.
Those who are failures, I have made failures.
I am not a machine, though I work with the precision of a machine
and the intelligence of a person.
You can run me for profit, or you can run me for ruin.
Show me how you want it done. Educate me. Train me. Lead me. Reward me.
And I will then… Do it automatically.
I am your servant. Who am I?
I AM A HABIT!"
Aristotle once said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” Habits are great because they enable us to be on autopilot for many tasks.  Think about when you first learned to tie your shoe.  You had to think about each and every step in the process until you perfected it.  Now you are able to tie your shoes without thinking about it or, often times, even looking at what you are doing. All the while, your subconscious mind tells your lungs to breath, your blood to pump, and your eyes to blink.  Unfortunately, habits can also be bad for us.

Years ago (I don’t even know when it started) I started setting my alarm an hour before I had to really get up because I have a bad habit of hitting the snooze button.  The only thing this has done for me is make me get less restful sleep.  So this month I am trying to change that.  I have bought a new alarm clock and placed it far enough away from my bed that I have to get out of bed to hit snooze.  Then I set my alarm early enough that, if I wake up right away, I will have plenty of time to get in a work out before getting ready for the day.  This is all part of my attempt to create good habits and replace my bad habits.

“So how do you create good habits?” you ask.  First you have to have a good idea of how habits are formed.  Habits are formed through repeated actions.  The more often that you repeat the same steps, the faster it will become a habit.  Try this…. cross your fingers the way that you normally would.  Now notice which finger is on top.  Next force yourself to cross your fingers with the opposite finger on top.  Does it feel weird? Could you force yourself to cross your fingers this new way for the rest of your life?  I think you could even though it could be very difficult.  You would have to purposely think about how to cross your fingers every time until it begins to feel natural.  Once it feels natural, it will not be long before it becomes a habit and you do it that way all the time.

That is how I plan to change my snoozing habit.  It feels odd right now. But, as soon as my body begins to get used to waking up at the same time every morning, it will become a habit and I should no longer need to rely on my alarm clock.  The secret to success is to purposely replace destructive habits with habits that will benefit you the most in the long run.  Create the habits that you want in order to create the you that you want. In the mean time, have fun with this little “Food for Thought” at the top of this article from Mac Anderson and John J. Murphy who wrote “Habits Die Hard – 10 Steps to Building Successful Habits”
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Your Children Are Watching

1/2/2013

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By Michelle Rasmussen

After entering a building you hold the door open for the next person about to come through just after you. Your children are watching.  A child at the table next to you in a restaurant drops their toy over the back of your seat into your booth and you hand it back to them with a smile. Your children are watching. You are out shoveling the snow off your driveway and sidewalk and decide to help your neighbor by also taking care of their walks.  Your children are watching.  You watch a mother try to carry her groceries across a busy parking lot while holding the hand of an out of control toddler who causes her to drop everything in her arms and it scatters all over the parking lot.  Rather than walk by, without a word you stop to help her gather the scatter items, put them back in the bags, and into her arms.  Your children are watching.


I’m sure that we all recognize that setting examples of showing empathy towards others teaches our children to understand others, appreciate differences, and be caring as they notice others in need.  Teaching our children empathy helps them learn to stand in other people’s shoes.  But did you know that the way we allow others to treat us determines how our children will allow others to treat them? 
 
Think about this, when a young child watches their parent get hurt repeatedly by someone they love, it teaches the child that a person does not love you unless they hurt you. When a person cheats on their significant other and their children are aware of the infidelity, the children often grow up to cheat on their significant other or they continually end up with people that cheat on them.  Our children watch our every move. Even when we think they are unaware of what is really going on, they are watching.  They pick up on so much more than we give them credit for. So when they hear you tell a lie about where you have been or they watch you allow someone to lie to you, you are teaching them that lying is ok.  As they become teenagers, you might find them lying to you.  How you respond to those lies will set the stage and often determine if or how long the lies will continue.

I want to challenge you to make a New Year’s resolution right now to become the type of person you want your children to be. Because they are watching and one day, they will inevitably make the same mistakes you are making right now unless you do something about it.  As you resolve to do better, keep in mind that it will not be something
you can change overnight. The goal should be to become 1% better each day, not 100% better in one day.  From time to time you are going to stumble and you are going to fall.  Each time you do, pick yourself up and try again.  Don’t feel like you need to hide your failures from your children, let them learn from them just like you are.  Hopefully then they will not have to go through the same experiences to learn the same lessons.  

An old Japanese proverb says, “Fall seven times, stand up eight.” Teach this to your children by doing it yourself. Your children are watching.
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    A single mother herself, has learned how to successfully raise strong, self reliant children that are sure to be assets to society.

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